142: Authentic Giving - Removing the Guilt from Generosity

"...Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream...”

This week, I am reading a quote from Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu and a quote from A Theory of Guilt Appeals: A Review Showing the Importance of Investigating Cognitive Processes as Mediators between Emotion and Behavior, by Graton and Mailliez, published in 2019.

Reflection question:

• With what are you watering the messages to donors? With guilt? Or, authentic giving?

Reflection on quote:

Today is our fourth episode in our series on authentic giving and avoiding transactional approaches.  We’ve discussed different approaches, donor demanding transactional approaches, and the root of loneliness in transactional donations.  Another root for transactional approaches is guilt.  Capital campaign donors can be guilted into a donation either by the campaign messages or through the donor’s inner values.  What happens when a campaign rely too heavily on guilt? 

As we are building our case for support for the capital campaign, we are making intentional choices in the framing message and the images we use.  We can choose overtly guilt inducing messages and images to pressure donors to give; such as crying clients or a building falling down.  These images and messages coupled with an urgent call to action, such as “you must give now,” will provoke a backlash.  Instead, when we choose messages and images that show need, empower agency, and provide the opportunity to give as part of the solution, the donor can take any guilt they may feel and channel it into positive gift.  That is, we are watering authentic generosity.   

To read: A Theory of Guilt Appeals: A Review Showing the Importance of Investigating Cognitive Processes as Mediators between Emotion and Behavior

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Transcript

Welcome back. Every week, we pause to reflect. Because capital campaigns — especially in small towns — aren't just about buildings and budgets. They're about people choosing to be generous. This podcast explores the beautiful space where generosity occurs through ancient and modern writings from all cultures and religions, seeking deeper wisdom for capital campaign work in small towns. Whether you're just starting out or deep in the middle of a campaign, these five-minute reflections will ground you, encourage you, and remind you why this work matters.

Today is our fourth episode in our series on authentic giving and avoiding transactional approaches.  We’ve discussed different approaches, donor demanding transactional approaches, and the root of loneliness in transactional donations.  Another root for transactional approaches is guilt.  Capital campaign donors can be guilted into a donation either by the campaign messages or through the donor’s inner values.  What happens when a campaign rely too heavily on guilt? This week, I am reading two quotes - one modern and one ancient.

The first is from the research article, A Theory of Guilt Appeals: A Review Showing the Importance of Investigating Cognitive Processes as Mediators between Emotion and Behavior, by Graton and Mailliez, published in 2019.

Quote

Guilt appeals in the field of persuasion are quite common. However, the effectiveness of these messages is sometimes ambivalent. It is widely acknowledged that guilt leads people to engage into prosocial behaviors, but the effects of guilt can also be counter-productive. It therefore seems that guilt does not act as a universal trigger for restorative actions (for example, giving). As an illustration, Graton and colleagues showed that guilt induction led to prosocial behavior, such as giving, when persuasion messages contained subtle reparation proposals. When the message was presented in a blatant or overly explicit way, guilt led to reactance-like behaviors (i.e., opposed to the persuasive message request) showing that guilt by itself is not sufficient to trigger altruistic behaviors.  Paradoxically, the authors show that quote explicit instructions (e.g., “it is necessary to mobilize to save the planet!”) provoked backlash behaviors.”

To summarize, too much guilt and the donor will react in fear and a refusal to give.

Now let’s visit some wisdom from the 6th century BC from Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu (Lao Sue).

Quote

“Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.”

Unquote

As we are building our case for support for the capital campaign, we are making intentional choices in the framing message and the images we use.  We can choose overtly guilt inducing messages and images to pressure donors to give; such as crying clients or a building falling down.  These images and messages coupled with an urgent call to action, such as “you must give now,” will provoke a backlash.  Instead, when we choose messages and images that show need, empower agency, and provide the opportunity to give as part of the solution, the donor can take any guilt they may feel and channel it into positive gift.  That is, we are watering authentic generosity.   

Let’s reflect on one question this week:

With what are you watering the messages to donors?  With guilt? Or authentic giving? 

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